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Weird unmatching
#1
I recently installed two allegedly religious dating apps, despite that im atheist, mainly to see if things would be different on them (more matches, better behavior). On one of them i have matched with 3 women. One blocked me overnight despite that i thought it was going well, which is disappointing but at least i can make sense of it; maybe then she had gotten her validation or entertainment, or maybe she saw a bigger better match a little later, and blocked me. But two of them unmatched me immediately after we matched, before i could even go to the new conversation, which just doesnt make sense to me. Does anyone know why they would do that?

One of them in particular i dont understand and happened just now, causing me to make this thread. I sent a special message to her which she accepted, causing us to match. But before i could go to what should have been the new conversation, it said "unmatched". Why would you accept someone's special request to match with you, only to immediately unmatch them? It would seem like a bug or intentional sabotage by the app, but i suspect that's not cynical enough and they simply behave like that?
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#2
It's typical female behavior, especially on dating apps.

You can't expect consistency from women. They're like the wind and change their direction all the time.

I've heard the following story from a guy

- he meets a woman
- she sleeps with him
- she seems really into him and even says "I want to see you again."
- she ghosts him

And all of that on multiple occasions with other women.

The unmatching that you're experiencing is the sad norm. It's technically not weird. It's expected,

Also, women are rarely religious. They're pretending to be or in other words they're fake.

I've talked to 2 Christian girls and they were no different than non-Christian girls in every sense.

I don't think you can find a truly religious girl on a dating app of any kind.
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#3
I think okcupid is the best one I tried. But cold approaching is my favorite.

The trouble I have is now, I am looking for unvaccinated women.
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#4
(07-09-2021, 04:28 AM)TruthSeeker Wrote: It's typical female behavior, especially on dating apps.

You can't expect consistency from women. They're like the wind and change their direction all the time.

I've heard the following story from a guy

- he meets a woman
- she sleeps with him
- she seems really into him and even says "I want to see you again."
- she ghosts him

And all of that on multiple occasions with other women.

The unmatching that you're experiencing is the sad norm. It's technically not weird. It's expected,

Also, women are rarely religious. They're pretending to be or in other words they're fake.

I've talked to 2 Christian girls and they were no different than non-Christian girls in every sense.

I don't think you can find a truly religious girl on a dating app of  any kind.

Im familiar with such stories myself, but not as many. Ive had a ons with a woman who told me first that we could be fwbs while we were in bed, but then when i brought it up again to keep seeing her she acted like she'd never talked about it.

I see, im used to no matches, ghosting, flaking, one way effort, but this phenomenon of unmatching immediately before any talking surprised even me. Either their whim shifts in literally seconds, even faster than the wind, or all they needed was the "match" visual for their dopamine validation hit.

I believe any morals they claim to have are fake until proven otherwise. For example, the woman who treated me the worst in my dating history - like a piece of dirt on her shoe - said that "respect is a big thing for her". It's just words that they like to imagine about themselves.

By the way i did my first cold approach in years a few days ago. I want to keep doing it not because i expect to find a woman but because it means in 10 years, you can think to yourself that at least you tried, instead of feeling regret, guilt and anger that you didnt at least confirm whether it worked or not. I think that for you, at least you have arrived closer to such a stage.


(07-09-2021, 04:33 AM)Plato Wrote: I think okcupid is the best one I tried. But cold approaching is my favorite.

The trouble I have now is, I am looking for unvaccinated women.

Haha, the worst woman ive dealt with i mentioned above was from okcupid Wink
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#5
(07-09-2021, 04:55 AM)Loverboy Wrote: Im familiar with such stories myself, but not as many. Ive had a ons with a woman who told me first that we could be fwbs while we were in bed, but then when i brought it up again to keep seeing her she acted like she'd never talked about it.

I see, im used to no matches, ghosting, flaking, one way effort, but this phenomenon of unmatching immediately before any talking surprised even me. Either their whim shifts in literally seconds, even faster than the wind, or all they needed was the "match" visual for their dopamine validation hit.

I believe any morals they claim to have are fake until proven otherwise. For example, the woman who treated me the worst in my dating history - like a piece of dirt on her shoe - said that "respect is a big thing for her". It's just words that they like to imagine about themselves.

By the way i did my first cold approach in years a few days ago. I want to keep doing it not because i expect to find a woman but because it means in 10 years, you can think to yourself that at least you tried, instead of feeling regret, guilt and anger that you didnt at least confirm whether it worked or not. I think that for you, at least you have arrived closer to such a stage.



Haha, the worst woman ive dealt with i mentioned above was from okcupid Wink

XD
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#6
Approaching is a total numbers game. Even the most attractive dude is unlikely to get more than a 5% exchange rate. (There are some conditional exceptions that I won't go into right now.)

This means that only 5 out 100 girls you approach will actually go out with you.

Out of those 5 some won't like you or will simply ghost. (In my case all of them).

Thus, you need to approach a very large amount of women to get anywhere. By large, I mean a scary number.

I would say 2000+.

As far as regrets go, you're kinda right. I don't have any regrets as far as trying something goes. I've done it all. But at the same time, the experience was expensive.

EXPECT THE OPPOSITE

A while back I wrote an article: Expect the Opposite when it comes to women.

I never published it, but the essence was this: if a woman promises you one thing, expect her to do the exact opposite.
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#7
Are any you guys going to date vaccinated women?
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#8
(07-09-2021, 04:36 PM)Plato Wrote: Are any you guys going to date vaccinated women?

Personally, I don't care whether they're vaccinated or not. I am not going to vaccinate myself unless they physically forced me to.
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#9
(07-09-2021, 08:23 PM)TruthSeeker Wrote: Personally, I don't care whether they're vaccinated or not. I am not going to vaccinate myself unless they physically forced me to.

Don't you worry about the spiritual connection?

Also, what if they make you infertile?
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#10
(07-09-2021, 09:08 PM)Plato Wrote: Don't you worry about the spiritual connection?

Also, what if they make you infertile?

it's hard enough to find someone. Introducing another requirement would make the task even more difficult.

I am not looking for perfect people.
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