Weird unmatching

[Loverboy]

Pictures > Career when it comes to online dating

You're obviously handsome. But for online dating, you have to be ultra-mega-handsome to get some use of it because you need high numbers.

Back when I was using OLD, I was primarily on Tinder. One time, I tried Bumble which is an app where the woman has to message the man first or the match disappears. 

I got 7 matches. 6 never messaged me and disappeared. 1 messaged me, we agreed to meet, but she ghosted me. I never tried the app again because I was already tired of online dating. 

Besides, my matches were not enough.

There are many filters which is why you need high numbers.

Here are all the funnels:

1. First, you need matches. 

2. Then, your matches actually have to be responsive.

3. Then, your match has to agree to meet, not just chat.

4. Then, she actually has to come to the date.

5. Then, she has to agree to meet again.

The more matches you have (base), the higher your chances.

Let's say you have 7 matches like me. 6 ignore you. 1 ghosts you. It's too little. 

I would need like 70 matches to get some use of this app. Let's say that 50 ignore me. 10 don't agree to meet me. 5 agree but never follow through and 5 meet me. Out of those 5 some won't like me. And I will be lucky to have a second date with 1-2 girls.

Update: I still have 2 weeks left on my premium, but im gonna call the attempt off and stop trying to send chats to women now. I just came home from barely being able to finish my gym workout. Ironically, what finally lifted my state of depression enough to keep going was to turn the tables and end a chat with a girl myself (after she hinted that it wasnt going to work).

The depressive pain i felt made me acutely recall what you said, which was something like: trying does let you confirm that it doesnt work instead of wondering what could have been, but you cant say that the pain was worth it. I agree. I cant say that the pain was worth it.

All i can say is what i expected, which is a repeated confirmation that OLD does not work - but that still leaves real life cold approaches on the table. It's there that i thought to myself "hope is cruelty" in the gym; the rabbit wheel of trying and trying always continuing, because technically all you need is one win - no matter how many failures and how much pain you accumulate the wheel can always be spinned one more step, and that is also what society would tell you - "just try more".

So the last thing i want to ask you for now is, is there an interaction formula to minimise the mental workload you need to perform with every woman you approach, and get as directly to the decisive "yes/no" steps as possible? without having to pretend like you have more energy than you do, like a windup toy. Just the thought of trying to make conversations with them makes me feel weary. I cant be bothered with the thought of trying to interact with them, like having no battery left... you know? But if you as a man dont do anything, nothing will happen and you will stay in purgatory.