11-19-2018, 01:46 PM
I have been asking myself the same.
My experience has resulted in the following conclusions:
1. The girls you communicate with online are uglier than you 99% of the time.
Women online are dating up. Men online are dating down. This is why the women who are as attractive as you often ignore you in the Cyber space.
Online dating creates a free market. You are competing with everyone in the radius. That's a lot of men. She will always try to secure the highest value target.
I know a few couples that have formed as a result of Tinder. In all cases, the men offer more than the women.
2. Offline you will meat the most attractive women.
All dates that I have had through offline interactions have been with women that would not even talk to me online. Actually, I have never had a date with an "offline" woman I don't like physically. They were not models or something, but decent enough for me.
3. Work can work but...
As you say already, dating at work is tricky. If things don't work out, you are in trouble.
This is true, but it really depends on the person. I would have agreed 5 years ago, but today, I have a pretty thick skin for this stuff. An endless stream of rejections thickens you.
If a woman is available at your work place and you like her, the best thing to do is to ask her directly. Unless there are some weird HR practices, the consequences would not be as dramatic as you think.
But you need to have thick skin and be prepared for a rejection or at least a form of ignore.
The problem with "work game" is that you may quickly run out of girls. Let's say you work with 8 girls. Some of them will be taken; others won't like you...etc.
4. Hobbies?
Never tried that one. Never shared a hobby that gives me exposure to women. But it could work. The problem is once again that you will quickly run out of girls.
5. Approaching
I have had dates from approaching, but the rejection rate is absolutely insane. You may approach 100 women and get nothing out of it.
The Best Case Scenario
In the best case, you would be working some sort of job that gives you exposure to women. E.g., personal trainer
However, even in that situation there are no guarantees.
My experience has resulted in the following conclusions:
1. The girls you communicate with online are uglier than you 99% of the time.
Women online are dating up. Men online are dating down. This is why the women who are as attractive as you often ignore you in the Cyber space.
Online dating creates a free market. You are competing with everyone in the radius. That's a lot of men. She will always try to secure the highest value target.
I know a few couples that have formed as a result of Tinder. In all cases, the men offer more than the women.
2. Offline you will meat the most attractive women.
All dates that I have had through offline interactions have been with women that would not even talk to me online. Actually, I have never had a date with an "offline" woman I don't like physically. They were not models or something, but decent enough for me.
3. Work can work but...
As you say already, dating at work is tricky. If things don't work out, you are in trouble.
This is true, but it really depends on the person. I would have agreed 5 years ago, but today, I have a pretty thick skin for this stuff. An endless stream of rejections thickens you.
If a woman is available at your work place and you like her, the best thing to do is to ask her directly. Unless there are some weird HR practices, the consequences would not be as dramatic as you think.
But you need to have thick skin and be prepared for a rejection or at least a form of ignore.
The problem with "work game" is that you may quickly run out of girls. Let's say you work with 8 girls. Some of them will be taken; others won't like you...etc.
4. Hobbies?
Never tried that one. Never shared a hobby that gives me exposure to women. But it could work. The problem is once again that you will quickly run out of girls.
5. Approaching
I have had dates from approaching, but the rejection rate is absolutely insane. You may approach 100 women and get nothing out of it.
The Best Case Scenario
In the best case, you would be working some sort of job that gives you exposure to women. E.g., personal trainer
However, even in that situation there are no guarantees.