The year was pretty sad for me.

[Screamager]

She was playing you for 7 years. 

I assume you stayed in touch with her for 7 years because you invented a fantasy in your brain of what she was to you. You might of even pictured her and you together over the years.

Thats a mistake. If you don't want to spend another 7 years texting one girl then do this:

Never text to create conversation anymore.

Ask her out immediately, even if its the first thing you say over text. "Hey it was nice to meet you last night, lets meet for coffee tomorrow. Let me know?"

If she starts making excuses but keeps a small shred of hope. Drop her. 
Only if she suggests another day, like you say tuesday and she says that can't work but suggest wednesday, then thats fine. If she suggests next month because of studies or something, drop her.

If she ignores your message. Drop her.

If she takes more than 1 day to respond. Drop her.

If she says yes, then don't text her anymore. Just say "cool see you there, how does 13:00 sound?"

Then you go on a very cheap simple date and see who she really is and she cant hide behind a screen. 

Half a hour before the date you text her to ask her if you still on for the date. If she doesn't show up and doesnt text. Drop her. Don't message her asking why, just drop her.

The process is the same even if you got her number from social media.


There is a simple 'trick' you can do help eliminate flakes. Since you will always schedule a date thats close to you rather than her, you can text her 15 minutes before the date and say you are going to be running 20 minutes late. If she doesnt respond, she is probably not coming. If she does it means shes probably coming. Not a perfect system but it does help.

Thank you, man. 

For seven consecutive years, she has consistently shown excuses / postponements such as "my relative died unexpectedly", "my mother broke her left hand", "my mother broke her right hand", "I got sick, I have a high fever "," I got sick from herpes zoster "," I am in the hospital "," my father was watering in the backyard of the house and stumbled on the watering hose and inflicted hip fracture ". All the postponement excuses came to the surface a few hours / days before our "scheduled" appointments.