(12-27-2019, 07:50 AM)TruthSeeker Wrote: Congratulations on your recovery.
Thank you also well done on the book.
(12-27-2019, 10:15 AM)khrazz Wrote: if feel like the coming year (2020) you should make a priority to work on yourself, possibly with a therapist. Talking to a specialist, might give you the solution to your issues. In my opinion, the only way to escape this vortex of constant failure, is to take drastic steps of (personal) change . For example, giving yourself a new haircut, buying new clothes are all part of this, but not the end of itself.
One thing is for certain though, if you keep having this mindset, you will have a really hard time meeting women. Nobody wants to hang out with someone who makes them feel bad. The women you meet already have their problems to bear, they dont want yet another problem to deal with. You should learn to play with the emotions and make them feel good/special (in a sincere way) , even if in the end you dont end up hanging out together in the long term. This will give you a huge ego boost.
This has nothing to do with how you look btw. Even if you do not have Brad pitt genetics, you can still make yourself look good AND clean. Sure, some women are shallow and dont bother dating someone "below" their league, but those are fewer than you might thing, and usually have so many personal issues that you dont wanna deal with them anyway. Just like bodybuilding, not everyone has genetics to looking good 24/7, which is why when you ask people to grade your looks, the most probable number you will be given is 7. 7 is the number of "average genetics". Is that bad? No. A 7, can easily become a 9 or even 10, if you are willing to spend some time grooming yourself or getting proper haircuts, coupled with clothes that fit YOUR style, body composition etc.
Hang in there brother. And please take into consideration the first advice i gave you. Go to a therapist. These people are educated to guide you through all these issues.
7/10 is not average math's tell you that