It's been shown to lower peoples' selfesteem and increase neuroticism to hang out on OLD and antisocial media.
The gender distribution is extremely skewed so there isn't enough to go around for you as a man at all - and then on top of that, many of the small amount of women who are online will be single moms, cluster Bs, cashappers and prostitutes, already in relationships, washed up from drinking, smoking and bad choices, free meal seekers (which is the man's own fault for both being stupid and trying to bribe her to sex with money), transvestites, fake profiles, or just follower, validation and entertainment farmers with no intention to meet let alone have sex with you.
And lastly, women almost only swipe right on the top 10% most desirable men - with a minority within that 10% again taking the biggest share.
Online dating and antisocial media is a siren song that lures you in with fantasies of accessible women, but only leads you to hate and misery.
Think the problem is just women being cruel or entitled? think again. The source of the problem is the medium itself. What you have to understand and keep in mind is that online dating is radically different from a real life social environment. It produces different stimuli than real life situations do. When you say "hello" to a woman in real life, you are the only person talking to her in that moment and she can perceive your totality. Imagine instead if every time you said "hello" to a woman in real life, 50 other men were saying "hello" to her at the same time. Do you think the situation would change? do you think the behavior would change? of course it would, because the different stimuli forces it to change. This is exactly what happens on OLD where women face a sensory overload and choice overload. The medium itself causes behavior to change for the worse - online, you can hardly even say "hello" to a woman as an introduction. You add that on to the fact that OLD is a business with an interest in keeping you paying for it, and not a charity - their business model requires that you don't get results so that you will pay and keep paying, but without wisening up to what's going on.
Delete your apps. Stop making yourself more hateful and miserable than you really are when you are standing out there relaxing in the forest or by the sea and your brain is no longer under the haze of the internet. Pretend OLD and antisocial media don't exist, and then ask how you could meet women and what your current lifestyle is doing to put you in proximity to women in ways you enjoy without those things.
The gender distribution is extremely skewed so there isn't enough to go around for you as a man at all - and then on top of that, many of the small amount of women who are online will be single moms, cluster Bs, cashappers and prostitutes, already in relationships, washed up from drinking, smoking and bad choices, free meal seekers (which is the man's own fault for both being stupid and trying to bribe her to sex with money), transvestites, fake profiles, or just follower, validation and entertainment farmers with no intention to meet let alone have sex with you.
And lastly, women almost only swipe right on the top 10% most desirable men - with a minority within that 10% again taking the biggest share.
Online dating and antisocial media is a siren song that lures you in with fantasies of accessible women, but only leads you to hate and misery.
Think the problem is just women being cruel or entitled? think again. The source of the problem is the medium itself. What you have to understand and keep in mind is that online dating is radically different from a real life social environment. It produces different stimuli than real life situations do. When you say "hello" to a woman in real life, you are the only person talking to her in that moment and she can perceive your totality. Imagine instead if every time you said "hello" to a woman in real life, 50 other men were saying "hello" to her at the same time. Do you think the situation would change? do you think the behavior would change? of course it would, because the different stimuli forces it to change. This is exactly what happens on OLD where women face a sensory overload and choice overload. The medium itself causes behavior to change for the worse - online, you can hardly even say "hello" to a woman as an introduction. You add that on to the fact that OLD is a business with an interest in keeping you paying for it, and not a charity - their business model requires that you don't get results so that you will pay and keep paying, but without wisening up to what's going on.
Delete your apps. Stop making yourself more hateful and miserable than you really are when you are standing out there relaxing in the forest or by the sea and your brain is no longer under the haze of the internet. Pretend OLD and antisocial media don't exist, and then ask how you could meet women and what your current lifestyle is doing to put you in proximity to women in ways you enjoy without those things.