(03-25-2019, 05:12 PM)locutus24 Wrote: Job in finance, pay off loans, get own home without paying rent, and continue BB. Other things too. Confidence? Fake it till I make it.
Brett is right here. It's hard to fake confidence because there is a difference between your inner and your outer side. That difference easily breaks if challenged at which point you may look pathetic.
So obviously, you should try to raise the inner side ("is") to match your desired outer side ("should"). Now, I could tell you to build up something (a skill, a good education, an appreciated job, starting a family (chicken-egg problem, I know), ...) to achieve that goal and those things definitely work (aging does too). But they are like the training wheels on your first bike hiding (yet) your inability to ride the bike alone.
What lack of confidence in a person really means, is that a person feels flawed, unworthy, and unloved due to personal and/or social conditioning. Those are the issues one should address. Most importantly, it's about you accepting yourself as you are and you not taking bullshit from other people anymore. That alone will not do the trick but your mindset should evolve around this kind of thinking.