The Sense of Humor Scam

[TruthSeeker]

The naive will tell you that women value a man's sense of humor. This is not true. It may look like that from the outside, but in reality, women do not care about that. 

I have made many women laugh to the point where other people start looking. The same women have later ghosted me and overall rejected me. 

They enjoyed my company and clown skills but didn't see enough "value" in me to stick for longer. I wasn't perfectly "tuned" for their liking. 

It always comes down to bucks and looks. Everything else is just protein powder.

[locutus24]

The naive will tell you that women value a man's sense of humor. This is not true. It may look like that from the outside, but in reality, women do not care about that. 

I have made many women laugh to the point where other people start looking. The same women have later ghosted me and overall rejected me. 

They enjoyed my company and clown skills but didn't seen enough "value" in me to stick for longer. I wasn't perfectly "tuned" for their liking. 

It always comes down to bucks and looks. Everything else is just protein powder.

Nice post! Never heard this one before!

At least now I can not stress over the humor tactic cause I ain't a happy/humorous person to begin with. Will try and earn more money though!

I heard that humor worked on women even before the internet. I remember my step dads and some other teenager men saying this. Has this myth been around that long? Was it around when you were younger?

[TruthSeeker]

Nice post! Never heard this one before!

At least now I can not stress over the humor tactic cause I ain't a happy/humorous person to begin with. Will try and earn more money though!

I heard that humor worked on women even before the internet. I remember my step dads and some other teenager men saying this. Has this myth been around that long? Was it around when you were younger?

There is zero need to pressure yourself to be funny. I could be very funny at times and I can certainly tell you that it's not a game changer.

[Hans]

The naive will tell you that women value a man's sense of humor. This is not true. It may look like that from the outside, but in reality, women do not care about that. 

I have made many women laugh to the point where other people start looking. The same women have later ghosted me and overall rejected me. 

They enjoyed my company and clown skills but didn't see enough "value" in me to stick for longer. I wasn't perfectly "tuned" for their liking. 

It always comes down to bucks and looks. Everything else is just protein powder.

Being funny can be a very servile behavior if you think about. Like a clown who needs to entertain his audience. Not very manly as I see it.

In addition to that, if a boy/man tries to be funny in order to sneak into a girl's pants, he has essentially a nice guy attitude. He tries to please her. They see through it though. Having some wit may help but not if it's targeted at the girl in order to entertain her.

Honor the situation, not the girl.

[Hans]

Use humour in moderation like in a tense moment, to illustrate to others that you have a cool head under pressure. Nothing will illustrate this better than remaining calm and popping a witty joke that is relevant to the moment.

I cannot help but think of Jeff Goldblum's role (Ian Malcom) in Jurassic Park / The Lost World. Not as cool as Jason Statham, Bruce Willis (in Die Hard), Harrison Ford (as Han Solo), or The Rock, but a more down-to-earth humor (actually, sarcasm) to hide his own, plausible anxiety.

[Plato]

Sense humour good never heard this one . Of course she have to be attractive to you . But tbh personality does play role not trying to be naive just saying. That why I rather date 5/10 than 7/10 girl who boring as shit . The problem is attractive guy could seem funny when really he not . Obviously ? don’t put our self down to make others laugh.

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I am Funny just for being myself. But it more social skill rather than pulling one . It does more to friendship rather than love.

[locutus24]

I cannot help but think of Jeff Goldblum's role (Ian Malcom) in Jurassic Park / The Lost World. Not as cool as Jason Statham, Bruce Willis (in Die Hard), Harris Ford (as Han Solo), or The Rock, but a more down-to-earth humor (actually, sarcasm) to hide his own, plausible anxiety.

Heh, he is the comedy relief character in most movies. Just like C3PO in Star Wars.

What if the joke is on the woman and it's a little cruel, but somehow funny? Harassment/restraining order or bitch slap to face? Or would she like the feeling of being degraded mentally by being the joke itself?

[TruthSeeker]

I was funny because I could be sometimes. That's it. It wasn't my goal. But my observations are that it does not matter. If you are funny, fine. Ultimately, women look for something else.

[twp]

This is how humor works.
She fell in love in two basketball/volleyball (assume tall and social status, probably muscular) players, but in her mind she is torn apart which one to choose. She chats with both of them and decides to choose the funnier one, because the other guys a little bit boring
In her mind she rationalize it with "ohhh the second guy is so funny, he can make me laugh all the time, this is why I chose him". And this is what she proceed to tell everyone without giving any context.
So when she is talking about confidence, humor, charisma always assume she is talking about someone guy with exceptional looks or high social status or both.

[Hans]

What if the joke is on the woman and it's a little cruel, but somehow funny? Harassment/restraining order or bitch slap to face? Or would she like the feeling of being degraded mentally by being the joke itself?

Hard to tell. The situation you describe is quite general.

Some kind of nagging might work if your looks are okay, the situation is right (party or so, not a corporate environment), and the girl plays along (if she does she likes you anyway). Could be creepy though if you go too harsh here while ignoring her lack of interest, if you put too much effort into it (you trying to please her), or if your intentions become too obvious to her.

I'm definitely not an expert on women (who is) but that's what my own experience tells me.