To date or not to date ?

[Plato]

Same thing as in what ?

[TruthSeeker]

Same thing as in what ?

Depends on the category. If it's a man - tall, handsome, rich, funny or mysterious.

In general, women are conformists. So they want a lot of the things that the system wants them to want.

[Plato]

Well the women I go for are crazy obsessive / loyal ones if I have that I do not care .

[khrazz]

Well Hey We all know that looks play big role in dating game . I really what to know we’re I am attractive wise . I don’t what to go for people too high your too low. The thing I value in a girl is loyalty so I don’t mind dating lower to achieve that. So the question is how do you find your attractive level? ?

You dont find it. You create it. Let me share a bit of experience on this matter, since 5 out of 6 women i have been with, where through social media. Some 10/10, and some average or even slightly below average.

1. Accept that this activity, is time consuming (like everything dating wise)
2. Accept that this activity, is shallow
3. Accept that you are talking to a stranger, and just like she would not share her deepest problems with you in person the first moment you see each other, it will be just like this through chatting. The only thing that changes is the tension you get when a stranger completely out of nowhere talks to you.

Having accepted all those reminders, we move to the rules of the "game"

1. Your profile, is your identity. Which means, no dark pictures, no creepy pictures of you watching anime,no stupid cat pictures from lolcats.com
2. Your photos, need to be top notch and well though. You can have some random photos here and there, but they must be limited.
3. If you happen to be very muscular  DONT have pictures of you naked, unless you are searching for a hookup. If you want a relationship, what you need to build is tension. If she sees your body, before you getting naked infront of her, you remove the tension and possibly her interest in you. She will most likely just masturbate to your picture and thats it. Just like guys get over their ex by faping to her pictures. Plus (this happened to me) you run the risk of running in a shallow chick who wants a muscular man besides her so that she can feed her insecurities.
4. Always ask questions and sinsirely be interested in what she says. A lot of women go through guys who ask like 2-3 questions and then proceed to call them up for a hookup.
5. You need to have a life outside of social media. And she needs to see this. She needs to see what you personally have to offer and what goals you have. I am not talking about going to the clubs and getting smashed, i am talking about having your life in order, and simply allowing her to join your life, not the other way around.
6. Dont be a message gypsy. Dont shower her with fake compliments, or with a gazillion of questions. You need to be aloof. Women get wet for aloof men (unless she is mentally ill and wants 24/7 attention) This goes weill with point 5. to having a life outside of social media, and simply letting her enter your life, instead of begging her to accept you.
7. NEVER EVER change who you are for her. That is a recipe for disaster. You are you, and she is she. If she cannot accept you for what you are, then she has no place in your life. A lot of inexperienced guys assume that by simply agreeing to whatever a woman says will magical make her be wet for them. Huuuuge mistake. Its actually the opposite, woman lose respect for a guy that does not stand on his feet.
8. Be true to your personal values and opinion. This goes with point 5. 6. 7. You are you, and nobody can change that but you. If you have flaws, then its up to you to change that. But nobody else can.

[TruthSeeker]

Well Hey We all know that looks play big role in dating game . I really what to know we’re I am attractive wise . I don’t what to go for people too high your too low. The thing I value in a girl is loyalty so I don’t mind dating lower to achieve that. So the question is how do you find your attractive level? ?

You dont find it. You create it. Let me share a bit of experience on this matter, since 5 out of 6 women i have been with, where through social media. Some 10/10, and some average or even slightly below average.

1. Accept that this activity, is time consuming (like everything dating wise)
2. Accept that this activity, is shallow
3. Accept that you are talking to a stranger, and just like she would not share her deepest problems with you in person the first moment you see each other, it will be just like this through chatting. The only thing that changes is the tension you get when a stranger completely out of nowhere talks to you.

Having accepted all those reminders, we move to the rules of the "game"

1. Your profile, is your identity. Which means, no dark pictures, no creepy pictures of you watching anime,no stupid cat pictures from lolcats.com
2. Your photos, need to be top notch and well though. You can have some random photos here and there, but they must be limited.
3. If you happen to be very muscular  DONT have pictures of you naked, unless you are searching for a hookup. If you want a relationship, what you need to build is tension. If she sees your body, before you getting naked infront of her, you remove the tension and possibly her interest in you. She will most likely just masturbate to your picture and thats it. Just like guys get over their ex by faping to her pictures. Plus (this happened to me) you run the risk of running in a shallow chick who wants a muscular man besides her so that she can feed her insecurities.
4. Always ask questions and sinsirely be interested in what she says. A lot of women go through guys who ask like 2-3 questions and then proceed to call them up for a hookup.
5. You need to have a life outside of social media. And she needs to see this. She needs to see what you personally have to offer and what goals you have. I am not talking about going to the clubs and getting smashed, i am talking about having your life in order, and simply allowing her to join your life, not the other way around.
6. Dont be a message gypsy. Dont shower her with fake compliments, or with a gazillion of questions. You need to be aloof. Women get wet for aloof men (unless she is mentally ill and wants 24/7 attention) This goes weill with point 5. to having a life outside of social media, and simply letting her enter your life, instead of begging her to accept you.
7. NEVER EVER change who you are for her. That is a recipe for disaster. You are you, and she is she. If she cannot accept you for what you are, then she has no place in your life. A lot of inexperienced guys assume that by simply agreeing to whatever a woman says will magical make her be wet for them. Huuuuge mistake. Its actually the opposite, woman lose respect for a guy that does not stand on his feet.
8. Be true to your personal values and opinion. This goes with point 5. 6. 7. You are you, and nobody can change that but you. If you have flaws, then its up to you to change that. But nobody else can.

Agree on many points, but I think online dating is a waste of time for the average male.

As long as you are online dating, you would be dating down - below your so-called league.

You would develop an unrealistic impression of yourself because you would be treated poorly by women. Men don't have any strength online and should not be there. That's how I see things.

[Plato]

hmm true if men stop using it women ego would go down . men need to stop liking girls post as well on facebook

[khrazz]

Well Hey We all know that looks play big role in dating game . I really what to know we’re I am attractive wise . I don’t what to go for people too high your too low. The thing I value in a girl is loyalty so I don’t mind dating lower to achieve that. So the question is how do you find your attractive level? ?

You dont find it. You create it. Let me share a bit of experience on this matter, since 5 out of 6 women i have been with, where through social media. Some 10/10, and some average or even slightly below average.

1. Accept that this activity, is time consuming (like everything dating wise)
2. Accept that this activity, is shallow
3. Accept that you are talking to a stranger, and just like she would not share her deepest problems with you in person the first moment you see each other, it will be just like this through chatting. The only thing that changes is the tension you get when a stranger completely out of nowhere talks to you.

Having accepted all those reminders, we move to the rules of the "game"

1. Your profile, is your identity. Which means, no dark pictures, no creepy pictures of you watching anime,no stupid cat pictures from lolcats.com
2. Your photos, need to be top notch and well though. You can have some random photos here and there, but they must be limited.
3. If you happen to be very muscular  DONT have pictures of you naked, unless you are searching for a hookup. If you want a relationship, what you need to build is tension. If she sees your body, before you getting naked infront of her, you remove the tension and possibly her interest in you. She will most likely just masturbate to your picture and thats it. Just like guys get over their ex by faping to her pictures. Plus (this happened to me) you run the risk of running in a shallow chick who wants a muscular man besides her so that she can feed her insecurities.
4. Always ask questions and sinsirely be interested in what she says. A lot of women go through guys who ask like 2-3 questions and then proceed to call them up for a hookup.
5. You need to have a life outside of social media. And she needs to see this. She needs to see what you personally have to offer and what goals you have. I am not talking about going to the clubs and getting smashed, i am talking about having your life in order, and simply allowing her to join your life, not the other way around.
6. Dont be a message gypsy. Dont shower her with fake compliments, or with a gazillion of questions. You need to be aloof. Women get wet for aloof men (unless she is mentally ill and wants 24/7 attention) This goes weill with point 5. to having a life outside of social media, and simply letting her enter your life, instead of begging her to accept you.
7. NEVER EVER change who you are for her. That is a recipe for disaster. You are you, and she is she. If she cannot accept you for what you are, then she has no place in your life. A lot of inexperienced guys assume that by simply agreeing to whatever a woman says will magical make her be wet for them. Huuuuge mistake. Its actually the opposite, woman lose respect for a guy that does not stand on his feet.
8. Be true to your personal values and opinion. This goes with point 5. 6. 7. You are you, and nobody can change that but you. If you have flaws, then its up to you to change that. But nobody else can.

Agree on many points, but I think online dating is a waste of time for the average male.

As long as you are online dating, you would be dating down - below your so-called league.

You would develop an unrealistic impression of yourself because you would be treated poorly by women. Men don't have any strength online and should not be there. That's how I see things.

You should not let this happen. Besides, what does below your league mean? Below your looks? below your intelligence capacity?

Developing an unrealistic impression of you is a sign of poor self-esteem. You are you, and she is she. If you find a woman who acts like a bitch simply go like "dont like me bitch? go fuck yourself"

Men have strength online, after all, 2 people are needed to have sex so a woman at some point will need to accept an X man.  In online dating, there is a slightly bigger competition, i agree on that. That is why your profile needs to be well thought and top notch. You "rise" your profile, above the average joe who faps to porn, plays WoW all day , is 40kilos overweight and has pictures of sexy big boob succubus with a whip on his profile (i saw that photo in a guys profile once lol)


The thing to remember is, since you "meet" a lot of people online, you are going to meet a huge gap of women with different political/religious/sexual/philosophical/economical opinion . This can create a huge confusion of yourself if you do not match with a lot of them, but the thing is, its not always your problem you dont match with them. You both just happen to have different views . Does that mean you cant be together? Well not always. But you should not discuss serious stuff online anyway, because you then seem like you are a troubled person and nobody wants that. Save the serious stuff for when you find a serious woman who will listen and discuss things

[Inder]

Well Hey We all know that looks play big role in dating game . I really what to know we’re I am attractive wise . I don’t what to go for people too high your too low. The thing I value in a girl is loyalty so I don’t mind dating lower to achieve that. So the question is how do you find your attractive level? ?

You dont find it. You create it. Let me share a bit of experience on this matter, since 5 out of 6 women i have been with, where through social media. Some 10/10, and some average or even slightly below average.

1. Accept that this activity, is time consuming (like everything dating wise)
2. Accept that this activity, is shallow
3. Accept that you are talking to a stranger, and just like she would not share her deepest problems with you in person the first moment you see each other, it will be just like this through chatting. The only thing that changes is the tension you get when a stranger completely out of nowhere talks to you.

Having accepted all those reminders, we move to the rules of the "game"

1. Your profile, is your identity. Which means, no dark pictures, no creepy pictures of you watching anime,no stupid cat pictures from lolcats.com
2. Your photos, need to be top notch and well though. You can have some random photos here and there, but they must be limited.
3. If you happen to be very muscular  DONT have pictures of you naked, unless you are searching for a hookup. If you want a relationship, what you need to build is tension. If she sees your body, before you getting naked infront of her, you remove the tension and possibly her interest in you. She will most likely just masturbate to your picture and thats it. Just like guys get over their ex by faping to her pictures. Plus (this happened to me) you run the risk of running in a shallow chick who wants a muscular man besides her so that she can feed her insecurities.
4. Always ask questions and sinsirely be interested in what she says. A lot of women go through guys who ask like 2-3 questions and then proceed to call them up for a hookup.
5. You need to have a life outside of social media. And she needs to see this. She needs to see what you personally have to offer and what goals you have. I am not talking about going to the clubs and getting smashed, i am talking about having your life in order, and simply allowing her to join your life, not the other way around.
6. Dont be a message gypsy. Dont shower her with fake compliments, or with a gazillion of questions. You need to be aloof. Women get wet for aloof men (unless she is mentally ill and wants 24/7 attention) This goes weill with point 5. to having a life outside of social media, and simply letting her enter your life, instead of begging her to accept you.
7. NEVER EVER change who you are for her. That is a recipe for disaster. You are you, and she is she. If she cannot accept you for what you are, then she has no place in your life. A lot of inexperienced guys assume that by simply agreeing to whatever a woman says will magical make her be wet for them. Huuuuge mistake. Its actually the opposite, woman lose respect for a guy that does not stand on his feet.
8. Be true to your personal values and opinion. This goes with point 5. 6. 7. You are you, and nobody can change that but you. If you have flaws, then its up to you to change that. But nobody else can.

Agree on many points, but I think online dating is a waste of time for the average male.

As long as you are online dating, you would be dating down - below your so-called league.

You would develop an unrealistic impression of yourself because you would be treated poorly by women. Men don't have any strength online and should not be there. That's how I see things.

I concur with Truthseeker, guy's are wasting their time online dating.

[locutus24]

I understand what you mean. But there are hard obstacles.

1. This world is heavily focused on the visual. It's all about looks. Social media intensified the focus on the external many times. 

I am sick and tired of rating people whatever/10 according to their appearance, but that attitude is like the computer - it's here to stay even if we don't like it. The higher they rate you, the better they treat you.

2. All women want the same type - tall, handsome, funny, rich. 

They don't care about your actions. If you donate one of your kidneys, you wouldn't impress them. They may share a post about you on social media to present themselves as virtuous, but you will not become more attractive to them. 

A criminal who looks good would still be more attractive to the vast majority than a martyr who has sacrificed his life for the world.

3. Hobbies are limited. 

Activities don't create attraction but an opportunity to meet women. Sharing the hobby of a woman does not make you more attractive to her. Besides, what are the hobbies of women? Shopping, social media, cats&dogs, yoga, gym? I have never had interest in a hobby frequented by women.

4. If they are in the system, you are there too.

You may choose to be different and ignore new stuff, but the crowd will not. It will follow the trend and affect you too. For example, you may decide not to participate in social media (a wise choice imo), but the world would still judge you for it.

Women have literally rejected me because I don't have a "proper FB profile". I will never make/create one because I don't want to be a slave to some digital idea of me, but I am still facing repercussions.

In short, you may choose not to participate in the dating system as it is, but since the rest of the population is playing the game, you will get burned too.

1. Agree. This desire for the visual is simple human biology and this desire in all of us has been increased by social media, meaning the photoshopping and other cosmetic enhancements to average women and men as well as those with natural beauty (actresses, models, burlesque dancers) who digitize their aesthetics on Instagram, Twitter and other ego-driven sites. As Truth Seeker mentions many times, play the dating game as it is now and if you are intelligent and courageous enough, maybe be creative to make yourself stand out even more. That could work or backfire. Don’t recommend online dating as your primary dating avenue, but I saw some dating article about a guy who had probably 4 or 5/10 looks on OKC and sampled his creative pics. He wore a swanky red polka dot suit with a red polka dot background that matched the suit so he blended into it like a chameleon while smiling and having his chest facing upward and arms reaching into the heavens. He created humorous pics such as him sitting by a lake in a chair, and then another chair next to him was empty with an added meme bubble that said "this is your spot". I don’t recall the article mentioning his dating successes, but the comments below (supposedly by women) said they would “consider” him for a date.  
 
If you do online dating then use your computer and/or smart phone to use photo manipulation tools to enhance your online alias look or have some trust-worthy friend take a good photo shoot that shows you in the "best possible version." I don't mean completely fake how you look, but just enhance yourself enough to bring out the best features. E.g. if you have bad looking nose from the front view, but have better looking cheeks and jaw sides, maybe angle pic slightly. But again, this could lead to future issues with the woman if she meets you for coffee or a quick lay and sees that unexpected nose flaw. I haven’t heard a woman confess that she is picky about looks as much as personality, but many people say that they do care, but don’t confess it. Most important parts to enhance are probably the face area and a good full torso shot, clothed or no clothes depending on how good your torso looks. Good looking abs and the “right" amount of noticeable muscle leanness on upper body are “highly recommended” for shirtless and avoid a selfie near bathroom mirror. Do shirtless in outdoors in nature with you doing something fun like playing volleyball with other men and women. Otherwise keep your shirt on. Better yet a stylish shirt like a button up or proper fitting casual shirt. I'm going mostly by testimony of friends who are both fit and unfit with online profiles and their dating success. Some friends who were sufficiently lean and muscular could get away with no shirts on, but face is important too. Some had decent looking facial features like high cheek bones, a clear jawline and one had a nice thick neck from a combination of genetics and probably strength training from playing football in high school. 
 
2. Agree, though rare exceptions can happen, so don’t count on luck to save you from loneliness. I've dated some foreign women, such as Koreans, and they also prefer men who have good amounts of money, ambitious careers that they are already working in with potential to be promoted, as well as humor. I think they care about looks too, though no Korean woman has confessed this yet. Male attractiveness standards seem to be mostly universal, though in East Asian countries being Caucasian can help even if you are average. I know, since I lived in China as student for a month when I was 155 lb skinny dude with no muscle mass and my face looked so lean that it reminded one of those Auschwitz survivors, yet many cute Chinese women would sigh and wave hands from distance while I walked on streets or went to bars/clubs. No sex, but got plenty of attention. I never made any moves at the time due to low confidence and was suffering from anxiety/panic disorder due to the crowds in China, but it could’ve led to something more had I tried. Maybe practice wooing foreign women if you meet any. My experience in general implies that they are “a bit” more forgiving for flaws, but they still have fairly high standards like American women.  
 
3. Only women-dominated hobby that “barely” worked for me was learning to dance. Ratio of women to men is like 2:1. However, many of the women were in relationships already and many are a bit cautious in mingling after dancing is over. I took 9 or 10 tango lessons and got some text numbers that led to some flirtatious texting, but they stopped replying eventually. No dates or lays, but there may have been some slight potential if I had stuck with tango longer and had improved my "texting game". And if you do dance, you can't just practice and hope to gain attraction while learning and making mistakes. You'll need to become one of the best dancers in class/club to garner attention from the attractive women there, which I failed to do. I attempted to attract the most stunning and talented dancer there, but was rejected twice. The smv economics remain same even in women-dominated hobbies.  
 
I tried yoga, but class had mostly women and maybe 1 or 2 other guys (average to ugly looking). Women kept giving me weird looks as if I was the male creep hoping to get laid by sneaking into the female “base of operations”. Better to find a woman somewhere else and do yoga/tantric sex with her. ; )  
 
4. I started talking to a woman on OKC from another city and I think she was real. We eventually moved conversation to FB and messaged there, though I asked for text number with no reply, which could have indicated she was fake. She had at least 100 pics with family, friends or her detouring other foreign places like Paris and Rome. Whereas I had like 12 pics, half with me alone doing solo hobbies or bland selfies at home. Ironically, I traveled abroad too, but didn‘t have any pics to show for it. She was a bit turned off by my lack of pics and variety during our first FB conversation. We texted and also sexted for a couple months but she lost interest exponentially quickly. So quickly that after 2 weeks of chatting I offered to visit her where she lived but she ignored message.  
 
Your FB profile is more relevant than you think and it goes beyond dating. Having studied at Columbia for a few years, I’ve learned from other students that Ivy League schools will monitor the student applicants most likely to gain admittance to university by scouting their FB profiles to see what they post. One student lost his admission spot because he made some subtle racial slurs on FB about some group of people. I have my FB deactivated at moment because it's not useful for now, but eventually will have to plug back in. Social media is now a "necessary evil" to succeed socially in life when it comes to networking for jobs or inducing social influence on other people, such as being a professional troll or activist. Just unplug for periods of time to ease the despair of digital limbo and then plug back in again. I did this too, though wasn’t aware as to reason why until recently. Moderation is key!  

[Plato]

I understand what you mean. But there are hard obstacles.

1. This world is heavily focused on the visual. It's all about looks. Social media intensified the focus on the external many times. 

I am sick and tired of rating people whatever/10 according to their appearance, but that attitude is like the computer - it's here to stay even if we don't like it. The higher they rate you, the better they treat you.

2. All women want the same type - tall, handsome, funny, rich. 

They don't care about your actions. If you donate one of your kidneys, you wouldn't impress them. They may share a post about you on social media to present themselves as virtuous, but you will not become more attractive to them. 

A criminal who looks good would still be more attractive to the vast majority than a martyr who has sacrificed his life for the world.

3. Hobbies are limited. 

Activities don't create attraction but an opportunity to meet women. Sharing the hobby of a woman does not make you more attractive to her. Besides, what are the hobbies of women? Shopping, social media, cats&dogs, yoga, gym? I have never had interest in a hobby frequented by women.

4. If they are in the system, you are there too.

You may choose to be different and ignore new stuff, but the crowd will not. It will follow the trend and affect you too. For example, you may decide not to participate in social media (a wise choice imo), but the world would still judge you for it.

Women have literally rejected me because I don't have a "proper FB profile". I will never make/create one because I don't want to be a slave to some digital idea of me, but I am still facing repercussions.

In short, you may choose not to participate in the dating system as it is, but since the rest of the population is playing the game, you will get burned too.

1. Agree. This desire for the visual is simple human biology and this desire in all of us has been increased by social media, meaning the photoshopping and other cosmetic enhancements to average women and men as well as those with natural beauty (actresses, models, burlesque dancers) who digitize their aesthetics on Instagram, Twitter and other ego-driven sites. As Truth Seeker mentions many times, play the dating game as it is now and if you are intelligent and courageous enough, maybe be creative to make yourself stand out even more. That could work or backfire. Don’t recommend online dating as your primary dating avenue, but I saw some dating article about a guy who had probably 4 or 5/10 looks on OKC and sampled his creative pics. He wore a swanky red polka dot suit with a red polka dot background that matched the suit so he blended into it like a chameleon while smiling and having his chest facing upward and arms reaching into the heavens. He created humorous pics such as him sitting by a lake in a chair, and then another chair next to him was empty with an added meme bubble that said "this is your spot". I don’t recall the article mentioning his dating successes, but the comments below (supposedly by women) said they would “consider” him for a date.  
 
If you do online dating then use your computer and/or smart phone to use photo manipulation tools to enhance your online alias look or have some trust-worthy friend take a good photo shoot that shows you in the "best possible version." I don't mean completely fake how you look, but just enhance yourself enough to bring out the best features. E.g. if you have bad looking nose from the front view, but have better looking cheeks and jaw sides, maybe angle pic slightly. But again, this could lead to future issues with the woman if she meets you for coffee or a quick lay and sees that unexpected nose flaw. I haven’t heard a woman confess that she is picky about looks as much as personality, but many people say that they do care, but don’t confess it. Most important parts to enhance are probably the face area and a good full torso shot, clothed or no clothes depending on how good your torso looks. Good looking abs and the “right" amount of noticeable muscle leanness on upper body are “highly recommended” for shirtless and avoid a selfie near bathroom mirror. Do shirtless in outdoors in nature with you doing something fun like playing volleyball with other men and women. Otherwise keep your shirt on. Better yet a stylish shirt like a button up or proper fitting casual shirt. I'm going mostly by testimony of friends who are both fit and unfit with online profiles and their dating success. Some friends who were sufficiently lean and muscular could get away with no shirts on, but face is important too. Some had decent looking facial features like high cheek bones, a clear jawline and one had a nice thick neck from a combination of genetics and probably strength training from playing football in high school. 
 
2. Agree, though rare exceptions can happen, so don’t count on luck to save you from loneliness. I've dated some foreign women, such as Koreans, and they also prefer men who have good amounts of money, ambitious careers that they are already working in with potential to be promoted, as well as humor. I think they care about looks too, though no Korean woman has confessed this yet. Male attractiveness standards seem to be mostly universal, though in East Asian countries being Caucasian can help even if you are average. I know, since I lived in China as student for a month when I was 155 lb skinny dude with no muscle mass and my face looked so lean that it reminded one of those Auschwitz survivors, yet many cute Chinese women would sigh and wave hands from distance while I walked on streets or went to bars/clubs. No sex, but got plenty of attention. I never made any moves at the time due to low confidence and was suffering from anxiety/panic disorder due to the crowds in China, but it could’ve led to something more had I tried. Maybe practice wooing foreign women if you meet any. My experience in general implies that they are “a bit” more forgiving for flaws, but they still have fairly high standards like American women.  
 
3. Only women-dominated hobby that “barely” worked for me was learning to dance. Ratio of women to men is like 2:1. However, many of the women were in relationships already and many are a bit cautious in mingling after dancing is over. I took 9 or 10 tango lessons and got some text numbers that led to some flirtatious texting, but they stopped replying eventually. No dates or lays, but there may have been some slight potential if I had stuck with tango longer and had improved my "texting game". And if you do dance, you can't just practice and hope to gain attraction while learning and making mistakes. You'll need to become one of the best dancers in class/club to garner attention from the attractive women there, which I failed to do. I attempted to attract the most stunning and talented dancer there, but was rejected twice. The smv economics remain same even in women-dominated hobbies.  
 
I tried yoga, but class had mostly women and maybe 1 or 2 other guys (average to ugly looking). Women kept giving me weird looks as if I was the male creep hoping to get laid by sneaking into the female “base of operations”. Better to find a woman somewhere else and do yoga/tantric sex with her. ; )  
 
4. I started talking to a woman on OKC from another city and I think she was real. We eventually moved conversation to FB and messaged there, though I asked for text number with no reply, which could have indicated she was fake. She had at least 100 pics with family, friends or her detouring other foreign places like Paris and Rome. Whereas I had like 12 pics, half with me alone doing solo hobbies or bland selfies at home. Ironically, I traveled abroad too, but didn‘t have any pics to show for it. She was a bit turned off by my lack of pics and variety during our first FB conversation. We texted and also sexted for a couple months but she lost interest exponentially quickly. So quickly that after 2 weeks of chatting I offered to visit her where she lived but she ignored message.  
 
Your FB profile is more relevant than you think and it goes beyond dating. Having studied at Columbia for a few years, I’ve learned from other students that Ivy League schools will monitor the student applicants most likely to gain admittance to university by scouting their FB profiles to see what they post. One student lost his admission spot because he made some subtle racial slurs on FB about some group of people. I have my FB deactivated at moment because it's not useful for now, but eventually will have to plug back in. Social media is now a "necessary evil" to succeed socially in life when it comes to networking for jobs or inducing social influence on other people, such as being a professional troll or activist. Just unplug for periods of time to ease the despair of digital limbo and then plug back in again. I did this too, though wasn’t aware as to reason why until recently. Moderation is key!  

guess it time to delete my facebook , I have never edit a profile pic . online is too  narcissistic for my taste