What would you prefer?

[Jonesy]

Not to pry, but isn't borderline personality disorder (I think that's what you said you were diagnosed with) characterised by fear of abandonment? I'm not an expert, obviously, but I imagine that could be holding you back in terms of relationships.

[Plato]

yea fear of abandonment is big one for sure we even destroy our relationship . I know, i could never cheat because the way I am .

[TruthSeeker]

yea fear of abandonment is big one for sure we even destroy our relationship .   I know, i could never cheat because the way I am .

Women are afraid of men like you because it means that you expect the same from them. They feel pressured and responsible. Since they don't want to be responsible and prefer to remain "free spirited" they try to make you think that you are the problem when in fact it's them.

[Jonesy]

yea fear of abandonment is big one for sure we even destroy our relationship .   I know, i could never cheat because the way I am .

At 23 you have a whole life ahead of you. I'm 36  now and looking back I wish I didn't care or worry as much when I was that age. Relationships have started and ended and there have been good and bad times. That's life ups and downs. I would say, don't obsess over the perfect partner and just try and enjoy your life best you can.

[Plato]

yea fear of abandonment is big one for sure we even destroy our relationship .   I know, i could never cheat because the way I am .

Women are afraid of men like you because it means that you expect the same from them. They feel pressured and responsible. Since they don't want to be responsible and prefer to remain "free spirited" they try to make you think that you are the problem when in fact it's them.

ah guess ill play it cool more often .  hmm should  I give up on love and relationships I read many of your blog's . I do think you speak a lot of truth but find you'r very negative sometimes with relationship's  advice, but I get ya the media has made everything worse .

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yea fear of abandonment is big one for sure we even destroy our relationship .   I know, i could never cheat because the way I am .

At 23 you have a whole life ahead of you. I'm 36  now and looking back I wish I didn't care or worry as much when I was that age. Relationships have started and ended and there have been good and bad times. That's life ups and downs. I would say, don't obsess over the perfect partner and just try and enjoy your life best yo

ill try

[Hans]

A 10/10 gorgeous girl who was a bit of a bore... or... a 7/10 girl who you really got on with?

Be honest.

Both ...? 

Just kiddin' ...

As a younger guy, I would have chosen the 10 and enjoyed the (presumably short) ride.

Now as I'm getting older, I would probably take the 7 since I don't want my girlfriend to be hit on all the time by some idiots I cannot compete with in terms of money, status, and looks. Life becomes a lot less stressful when she thinks you are a better deal than the other guys she could get, and that is rather the case with a 7 than with a 10 (of course, that depends on your "assets" relative to hers). Women rarely date down in the long term (only men do, unfortunately).

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I just want someone loyal.

Sorry to disappoint you, but loyalty is not a female trait.

[Plato]

A 10/10 gorgeous girl who was a bit of a bore... or... a 7/10 girl who you really got on with?

Be honest.

Both ...? 

Just kiddin' ...

As a younger guy, I would have chosen the 10 and enjoyed the (presumably short) ride.

Now as I'm getting older, I would probably take the 7 since I don't want my girlfriend to be hit on all the time by some idiots I cannot compete with in terms of money, status, and looks. Life becomes a lot less stressful when she thinks you are a better deal than the other guys she could get, and that is rather the case with a 7 than with a 10 (of course, that depends on your "assets" relative to hers). Women rarely date down in the long term (only men do, unfortunately).

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I just want someone loyal.

Sorry to disappoint you, but loyalty is not a female trait.

Any one can have loyalty qualities even women it just mind set . It just it’s rare now . Not everyone is brainwashed. Most males And female are not that true we do love in brains washed society.

[locutus24]

Scales are relative, but for me I just go for women with certain physical and personality features. Women in the states I go for brunette, light eyes, pale skin, and pretty looking. Artsy types like musicians, amateur comedians, etc. 

Also have a fetish for Korean women. Dated one a while back who was gorgeous. Playful, smart, and caring. I squatted a few times while she was at my old apt and she was afraid for my safety saying "are you okay." 

I see women as I see music. Certain genres appeal to me more than others.

[jimjohnson]

A 10/10 gorgeous girl who was a bit of a bore... or... a 7/10 girl who you really got on with?

Be honest.

i'd go as low as a 5/10 but better personality....

The novelty of super looks wears off quick and if you do not get on it dies very fast.

As long as she is at least average looks and looks after herself....what is the problem?

You couldn't marry some super looking women you hate. (she hates you)