(07-20-2020, 05:13 PM)TruthSeeker Wrote: True. Although some form of orbiting has always existed even before the invention of the phone itself. But I do agree that it would be a lot more difficult to ditch/play someone if there was no texting.
Another peculiarity that I forgot to mention is that anti-social media put your object of interest always in your face. You're stimulated to look at her photos...etc. This keeps the memory fresh and emotionally tweaks you in a negative way while she is partying with other men.
In general, the Internet did a lot of harm to the world of dating. Of course, daring was a flawed concept before the Internet. But now it's like cancer on steroids.
Yep, even the phone itself merely manifests the same fundamental sexual dynamics between men and women that were always there.
About antisocial media putting your object of interest in your face, the other day I looked at the fakebook profile of the girl who treated me the worst in my dating life. She has social justice posts all over, and a graphic saying you are as pretty as how you treat other people. To others that is a like-worthy virtue signal, but to me it is a macabre, inside joke. Just like "respect being huge for her" was in hindsight too. The point of me saying this is that these women virtue signal publicly, but in their private lives they have no compunctions with treating men like disposable subhumans at their whim and leisure. It is a perverse hypocrisy, and something else you'll see from looking at their antisocial media besides their photos.
Dating being flawed before the internet is certainly true too. In general, you must look for existential validation outside of women. This is not a way to "win", but only what you must do to prevent yourself from losing totally. Consuming media about women, thinking about women, microcriticizing every detail of your looks, presentation, lifestyle and behavior for dating - these behaviors are both symptoms of an existential poverty, and a black hole that furthers it through opportunity cost and spiritual sacrifice. But of course, the compulsion and obsession we are cursed with as male mammals is the hindrance to actualizing this awareness.
PS. It's good to hear from you again a little bit TS, a sign of life from you is what I most wanted from popping up here again. I hope you have found or will find at least some joy this summer.