10-19-2018, 01:38 PM
(This post was last modified: 10-19-2018, 01:40 PM by TruthSeeker.)
(10-19-2018, 07:51 AM)wetdog Wrote: Wouldn't quantifying one's self worth be trapping yourself within the "system"? And by system I mean the one where you find the cheaters and beaters, potentially nasty partners that they themselves have been trapped in same system of "I can't find anyone who is loyal or on my level".
What if we were to break free form the confines of this type of "I'm this number out of ten, in terms of XYZ" thinking? Perhaps there is a more organic method of meeting that special someone. Perhaps that cute chick that shares the same hobby as you in your local rowing club, or the extra thicc cosplayer you clicked with at the anime convention, might be interested in having a low pressure date with you. Nothing spells chemistry better than having similar reagents (hobbies etc)
Maybe, for a different outcome, it's time to try a different method
I understand what you mean. But there are hard obstacles.
1. This world is heavily focused on the visual. It's all about looks. Social media intensified the focus on the external many times.
I am sick and tired of rating people whatever/10 according to their appearance, but that attitude is like the computer - it's here to stay even if we don't like it. The higher they rate you, the better they treat you.
2. All women want the same type - tall, handsome, funny, rich.
They don't care about your actions. If you donate one of your kidneys, you wouldn't impress them. They may share a post about you on social media to present themselves as virtuous, but you will not become more attractive to them.
A criminal who looks good would still be more attractive to the vast majority than a martyr who has sacrificed his life for the world.
3. Hobbies are limited.
Activities don't create attraction but an opportunity to meet women. Sharing the hobby of a woman does not make you more attractive to her. Besides, what are the hobbies of women? Shopping, social media, cats&dogs, yoga, gym? I have never had interest in a hobby frequented by women.
4. If they are in the system, you are there too.
You may choose to be different and ignore new stuff, but the crowd will not. It will follow the trend and affect you too. For example, you may decide not to participate in social media (a wise choice imo), but the world would still judge you for it.
Women have literally rejected me because I don't have a "proper FB profile". I will never make/create one because I don't want to be a slave to some digital idea of me, but I am still facing repercussions.
In short, you may choose not to participate in the dating system as it is, but since the rest of the population is playing the game, you will get burned too.