07-11-2019, 04:22 AM
(07-10-2019, 09:13 AM)khrazz Wrote: If she dumps you to "find herself" that means as you correctly said that she is looking for her options. My advice would be to do the same, and not wait for her to return to you. Chances are, if she indeed does return, especially if the break up is sudden, that her other option(s) didnt work out and you are the bottom feeder until she recovers her self esteem and go on a "finding myself" adventure again.
People who say "i need to find myself" usually never truly find themselves. They are just projecting their wish to become something better, not the action . Which is why she is most likely still looking as you said.
People hardly ever blame themselves for their current state of life (if its bad ofc). Its really easy to blame others for your misfortune (my ex was an ass/bitch, my friend was stupid, my family is bad etc) . Finding myself is a code word for saying "i am a low value person, i lost people due to this, and now i need to work my way to new relationships which will feed my ego" . You dont find yourself, you create yourself. Just as you create your future (up to a certain point) and never find your future. You cant "find" your future, so if you cant find your future, why and how on earth would you "find" yourself?
Dont fall for such crap. If you are on a dating app and she says she is finding herself, trend carefully . She is most likely a bitch that screwed herself up, she most likely never worked on herself, never did things of value for herself and now that she is single she feels a deep void because she no longer has something to occupy her mind - hence the reason why she "needs to find herself"
A woman has never returned to me.
By doing so, she is saying that I'd been right. She'd hate that. Besides, women have many options and don't want to admit that they've made a mistake.