Males Always Take The Blame When a Relationship Fails

[alphonsesilberstein]

This is true. We as men always are the 'guilty party' as to why a relationship failed, date went bad, text wasn't responded to etc. Women are angels in the eyes of society.

However to be fair men normally are guilty of being desperate, over messaging a girl, texting her long boring messages, constantly updating her about his day, always being super available, bragging and trying to demonstrate value, bringing a girl down just to make yourself look more high value, over talking about yourself, buying a girl expensive gifts for no reason, buying her drinks before you even know her, etc. Generally any try hard behaviour. At the same time all these characteristic women can display too.

These are generally the type of men women flake on, play games with, ignore, cheat on, use and abuse, friend zone, etc. When so many men are treating her like she's the last women on earth, its no wonder her ego is sky high. What do we expect? Her to be humble? She will never display desperate qualities because if one man rejects her, she has dozens more to choose from. 

Not to say if you just be yourself and cease all this try hard behaviour she won't cheat on you etc. It just means you more than likely not going to be the one over invested so it won't matter to you. Its not a game you playing, you simply don't care because you know she's just a girl (and not the only one you will ever meet). 

You basically expect her to be what she is, a pretentious, predictable and boring person. Therefore why would you act out and do things you normally wouldn't do? Like buy a stranger drinks?

Its kind of a paradox, it is true that women and society blame men for every rejection (because women most of the time are the ones doing the rejecting). However men are also doing things that are out of character of what being a man is. So its not 'playing games' to treat a woman like she's beneath you, in fact, its being unnatural to treat her like she's your queen.

Its been said, "treat a woman like a dog" (you wouldn't abuse your dog), You tell your dog what to do, you are your dogs life, you feed it, protect it. If it dies, you replace it.

I have always thought that you have to treat women equally to men. "You basically expect her to be what she is, a pretentious, predictable and boring person. Therefore why would you act out and do things you normally wouldn't do? Like buy a stranger drinks?" Also you would allow a male friend to abused of your time, nor would you bring him down? That doesnt mean that you cant get mad at him if the situation earns it. The problem is that as you said, most men A) treat her like a princess or B) try to show high value to the point of insulting the other person. Treat her like a man, with the same standards as men, they really love it when you do it right, well it works for me, I am not affraid of telling my female friends that they are crossing the line.

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This is true. We as men always are the 'guilty party' as to why a relationship failed, date went bad, text wasn't responded to etc. Women are angels in the eyes of society.

However to be fair men normally are guilty of being desperate, over messaging a girl, texting her long boring messages, constantly updating her about his day, always being super available, bragging and trying to demonstrate value, bringing a girl down just to make yourself look more high value, over talking about yourself, buying a girl expensive gifts for no reason, buying her drinks before you even know her, etc. Generally any try hard behaviour. At the same time all these characteristic women can display too.

These are generally the type of men women flake on, play games with, ignore, cheat on, use and abuse, friend zone, etc. When so many men are treating her like she's the last women on earth, its no wonder her ego is sky high. What do we expect? Her to be humble? She will never display desperate qualities because if one man rejects her, she has dozens more to choose from. 

Not to say if you just be yourself and cease all this try hard behaviour she won't cheat on you etc. It just means you more than likely not going to be the one over invested so it won't matter to you. Its not a game you playing, you simply don't care because you know she's just a girl (and not the only one you will ever meet). 

You basically expect her to be what she is, a pretentious, predictable and boring person. Therefore why would you act out and do things you normally wouldn't do? Like buy a stranger drinks?

Its kind of a paradox, it is true that women and society blame men for every rejection (because women most of the time are the ones doing the rejecting). However men are also doing things that are out of character of what being a man is. So its not 'playing games' to treat a woman like she's beneath you, in fact, its being unnatural to treat her like she's your queen.

Its been said, "treat a woman like a dog" (you wouldn't abuse your dog), You tell your dog what to do, you are your dogs life, you feed it, protect it. If it dies, you replace it.

I have always thought that you have to treat women equally to men. "You basically expect her to be what she is, a pretentious, predictable and boring person. Therefore why would you act out and do things you normally wouldn't do? Like buy a stranger drinks?" Also you would allow a male friend to abused of your time, nor would you bring him down? That doesnt mean that you cant get mad at him if the situation earns it. The problem is that as you said, most men A) treat her like a princess or B) try to show high value to the point of insulting the other person. Treat her like a man, with the same standards as men, they really love it when you do it right, well it works for me, I am not affraid of telling my female friends that they are crossing the line.