11-18-2018, 09:15 PM
I've been wondering about this. When I met my ex, about ten years ago, we got talking on facebook chat. Now, I don't have a facebook and refuse to make a new one after deleting it.
I would say, you need to either meet someone at work, in a bar, or at a hobby. Work is awkward because if the date goes to shit or she says no, it i9s going to be extremely awkward working with someone after that. Pubs and bars can work, but you have to "chat up" a girl. This is generally considered creepy amongst the female community and even if she likes you she will probably be embarrassed in front of her friends. Also, you know nothing about the girl and she knows nothing about you. That said, alcohol usually makes things easier when attempting this tactic. The hobby is the best idea in my opinion. You aren't forced to go to see her every day if it goes wrong and you both have the same interest already so you can get the idea if she's into you. The problem here is that men and women usually have different hobbies. Even at a gym that caters for men and women, you will probably doing different stuff. It's not like you can ask her to spot you in the squat rack. She will probably on the treadmill with earphones in listening to her ipod for 45 minutes before stretching and going home to watch x-factor and browse facebook.
Online seems to be where society wants us now. Everything is just so set up for online interaction over face to face. Asking a girl for her phone number is seen as an ancient form of courting these days. It's all about creating an acceptable online profile to lure the bitches in now. That said, I got really ripped once when I was training at my best and I posted pics of myself topless on facebook (black and white for maximum effect) and I cringe when I think back to that. I am literally cringing as I type this it is so embarrassing for me now. The attention I got for sluts paled compared to the utter fool I made of myself amongst people who knew me. The reason is my personality in real life contrasted heavily with me trying to be a poser online. The worst of it is that I was married then too. I was just trying to show off.
I would say, you need to either meet someone at work, in a bar, or at a hobby. Work is awkward because if the date goes to shit or she says no, it i9s going to be extremely awkward working with someone after that. Pubs and bars can work, but you have to "chat up" a girl. This is generally considered creepy amongst the female community and even if she likes you she will probably be embarrassed in front of her friends. Also, you know nothing about the girl and she knows nothing about you. That said, alcohol usually makes things easier when attempting this tactic. The hobby is the best idea in my opinion. You aren't forced to go to see her every day if it goes wrong and you both have the same interest already so you can get the idea if she's into you. The problem here is that men and women usually have different hobbies. Even at a gym that caters for men and women, you will probably doing different stuff. It's not like you can ask her to spot you in the squat rack. She will probably on the treadmill with earphones in listening to her ipod for 45 minutes before stretching and going home to watch x-factor and browse facebook.
Online seems to be where society wants us now. Everything is just so set up for online interaction over face to face. Asking a girl for her phone number is seen as an ancient form of courting these days. It's all about creating an acceptable online profile to lure the bitches in now. That said, I got really ripped once when I was training at my best and I posted pics of myself topless on facebook (black and white for maximum effect) and I cringe when I think back to that. I am literally cringing as I type this it is so embarrassing for me now. The attention I got for sluts paled compared to the utter fool I made of myself amongst people who knew me. The reason is my personality in real life contrasted heavily with me trying to be a poser online. The worst of it is that I was married then too. I was just trying to show off.