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The year was pretty sad for me.
#1
This is one of the saddest years that I've had to endure in regards to love and relationships. I got my heart ripped off in the summer. And even though it had happened before, this was the hit that finally got me on the ground. I couldn't stand up. 

And the worse part is that I don't see a way out of this endless cycle of torture. I am slowly coming to terms with my curse – women do not want me and there's that. I will forever be alone. Most do not even want a second date with me let alone more. 

And while I understand that the modern woman is sick to the bones, I cannot change the fact that the loneliness and the bleakness got the best of me. 

The best part of the year was finishing the book A Desert in the Sky. Writing it was a rather painful experience in and of itself. I experienced huge liberation when it was done as if I was leaving all those stories behind me. I love how it turned out. I felt satisfied with the final result.

All my love pursuits have been honest and yet resulted in nothing but extended suffering. You can attribute my failure to the possession of an improper mindset. But I don't care. I am tired of constantly "mind-hacking" myself to come up with a new theory that produces more hope. It was about time for me to admit the obvious. Things are not going to end well.
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#2
Maybe you will find luck if you date a bit uglier. If you tried to date 7+/10 and failed a lot of times then you can try with 5/10
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#3
You might experiment with a foreign (non-western) country?
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#4
the same for me, I'm 20 years old and it was the first time I confess love for a girl and after 3 months dating she just broke up without telling me why
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#5
(12-25-2019, 04:36 AM)Alves Wrote: the same for me, I'm 20 years old and it was the first time I confess love for a girl and after 3 months dating she just broke up without telling me why

You must never confess your love to a woman.

You can tell your mom you love her. I even struggle to do that though.

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(12-24-2019, 05:27 PM)Real G Wrote: Maybe you will find luck if you date a bit uglier. If you tried to date 7+/10 and failed a lot of times then you can try with 5/10

I don't focus on getting the most attractive woman. I have also been rejected by 4s and 5s. Just over the course of the previous week, three women ghosted me. They were raging 5-7.

(12-25-2019, 04:36 AM)Alves Wrote: the same for me, I'm 20 years old and it was the first time I confess love for a girl and after 3 months dating she just broke up without telling me why

The same could have happened even if you hadn't "confessed". As if it's a crime to love someone. 

But you are still young even if you don't feel like it. I am a lot older than you, and at my age, all those rejections are catching up with me. I think I am done.
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#7
I felt like nattyornot this year. But I made amazing recovery which is Ironic if you ask me .
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#8
(12-26-2019, 09:51 PM)Plato Wrote: I felt like nattyornot this year. But I made amazing recovery which is Ironic if you ask me .

Congratulations on your recovery.
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(12-24-2019, 04:35 PM)TruthSeeker Wrote: This is one of the saddest years that I've had to endure in regards to love and relationships. I got my heart ripped off in the summer. And even though it had happened before, this was the hit that finally got me on the ground. I couldn't stand up. 

And the worse part is that I don't see a way out of this endless cycle of torture. I am slowly coming to terms with my curse – women do not want me and there's that. I will forever be alone. Most do not even want a second date with me let alone more. 

And while I understand that the modern woman is sick to the bones, I cannot change the fact that the loneliness and the bleakness got the best of me. 

The best part of the year was finishing the book A Desert in the Sky. Writing it was a rather painful experience in and of itself. I experienced huge liberation when it was done as if I was leaving all those stories behind me. I love how it turned out. I felt satisfied with the final result.

All my love pursuits have been honest and yet resulted in nothing but extended suffering. You can attribute my failure to the possession of an improper mindset. But I don't care. I am tired of constantly "mind-hacking" myself to come up with a new theory that produces more hope. It was about time for me to admit the obvious. Things are not going to end well.


if feel like the coming year (2020) you should make a priority to work on yourself, possibly with a therapist.  Talking to a specialist, might give you the solution to your issues. In my opinion, the only way to escape this vortex of constant failure, is to take  drastic steps of (personal) change . For example, giving yourself a new haircut, buying new clothes are all part of this, but not the end of itself.

One thing is for certain though, if you keep having this mindset, you will have a really hard time meeting women. Nobody wants to hang out with someone who makes them feel bad. The women you meet already have their problems to bear, they dont want yet another problem to deal with. You should learn to play with the emotions and make them feel good/special (in a sincere way) , even if in the end you dont end up hanging out together in the long term. This will give you a huge ego boost.

This has nothing to do with how you look btw. Even if you do not have Brad pitt genetics, you can still make yourself look good AND clean. Sure, some women are shallow and dont bother dating someone "below" their league, but those are fewer than you might thing, and usually have so many personal issues that you dont wanna deal with them anyway. Just like bodybuilding, not everyone has genetics to looking good 24/7, which is why when you ask people to grade your looks, the most probable number you will be given is 7. 7 is the number of "average genetics". Is that bad? No. A 7, can easily become a 9 or even 10, if you are willing to spend some time grooming yourself or getting proper haircuts, coupled with clothes that fit YOUR style, body composition etc.

Hang in there brother. And please take into consideration the first advice i gave you. Go to a therapist. These people are educated to guide you through all these issues.
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(12-27-2019, 10:15 AM)khrazz Wrote: if feel like the coming year (2020) you should make a priority to work on yourself, possibly with a therapist.  Talking to a specialist, might give you the solution to your issues. In my opinion, the only way to escape this vortex of constant failure, is to take  drastic steps of (personal) change . For example, giving yourself a new haircut, buying new clothes are all part of this, but not the end of itself.

One thing is for certain though, if you keep having this mindset, you will have a really hard time meeting women. Nobody wants to hang out with someone who makes them feel bad. The women you meet already have their problems to bear, they dont want yet another problem to deal with. You should learn to play with the emotions and make them feel good/special (in a sincere way) , even if in the end you dont end up hanging out together in the long term. This will give you a huge ego boost.

This has nothing to do with how you look btw. Even if you do not have Brad pitt genetics, you can still make yourself look good AND clean. Sure, some women are shallow and dont bother dating someone "below" their league, but those are fewer than you might thing, and usually have so many personal issues that you dont wanna deal with them anyway. Just like bodybuilding, not everyone has genetics to looking good 24/7, which is why when you ask people to grade your looks, the most probable number you will be given is 7. 7 is the number of "average genetics". Is that bad? No. A 7, can easily become a 9 or even 10, if you are willing to spend some time grooming yourself or getting proper haircuts, coupled with clothes that fit YOUR style, body composition etc.

Hang in there brother. And please take into consideration the first advice i gave you. Go to a therapist. These people are educated to guide you through all these issues.

1. I will not see a therapist because they are useless. My mind is perfectly sound. The actual problem is not me. It's the modern female. They have insane requirements and zero accountability. 

As I already told you, I have zero interest in "mind hacking" myself. My present intelligence is sufficient. My mindset is reasonable.

2. The most important requirements to attracting a woman are: a) looks, b)money. Therapists help with neither.

3. Why do you imply that I make women feel bad? I have a great sense of humor and have made most of them laugh continuously. 

4. Why do you presume that I don't have a good haircut and "groom myself already"?

5. You don't become "Brad Pitt" with haircuts. You become him with genes. I already have new clothes. I changed my wardrobe 3 years ago.

6. A 7 cannot become a 9. Only a 9 that has let themselves fall to 7 could.

8. Thank you for taking the time to write me. I appreciate it.
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