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Why Texting Is Nonsense and Hurts Men
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(07-20-2020, 05:13 PM)TruthSeeker Wrote: True. Although some form of orbiting has always existed even before the invention of the phone itself. But I do agree that it would be a lot more difficult to ditch/play someone if there was no texting. 

Another peculiarity that I forgot to mention is that anti-social media put your object of interest always in your face. You're stimulated to look at her photos...etc. This keeps the memory fresh and emotionally tweaks you in a negative way while she is partying with other men.

In general, the Internet did a lot of harm to the world of dating. Of course, daring was a flawed concept before the Internet. But now it's like cancer on steroids.

Yep, even the phone itself merely manifests the same fundamental sexual dynamics between men and women that were always there.

About antisocial media putting your object of interest in your face, the other day I looked at the fakebook profile of the girl who treated me the worst in my dating life. She has social justice posts all over, and a graphic saying you are as pretty as how you treat other people. To others that is a like-worthy virtue signal, but to me it is a macabre, inside joke. Just like "respect being huge for her" was in hindsight too. The point of me saying this is that these women virtue signal publicly, but in their private lives they have no compunctions with treating men like disposable subhumans at their whim and leisure. It is a perverse hypocrisy, and something else you'll see from looking at their antisocial media besides their photos.

Dating being flawed before the internet is certainly true too. In general, you must look for existential validation outside of women. This is not a way to "win", but only what you must do to prevent yourself from losing totally. Consuming media about women, thinking about women, microcriticizing every detail of your looks, presentation, lifestyle and behavior for dating - these behaviors are both symptoms of an existential poverty, and a black hole that furthers it through opportunity cost and spiritual sacrifice. But of course, the compulsion and obsession we are cursed with as male mammals is the hindrance to actualizing this awareness.

PS. It's good to hear from you again a little bit TS, a sign of life from you is what I most wanted from popping up here again. I hope you have found or will find at least some joy this summer.
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(07-20-2020, 08:41 PM)Loverboy Wrote: Yep, even the phone itself merely manifests the same fundamental sexual dynamics between men and women that were always there.

About antisocial media putting your object of interest in your face, the other day I looked at the fakebook profile of the girl who treated me the worst in my dating life. She has social justice posts all over, and a graphic saying you are as pretty as how you treat other people. To others that is a like-worthy virtue signal, but to me it is a macabre, inside joke. Just like "respect being huge for her" was in hindsight too. The point of me saying this is that these women virtue signal publicly, but in their private lives they have no compunctions with treating men like disposable subhumans at their whim and leisure. It is a perverse hypocrisy, and something else you'll see from looking at their antisocial media besides their photos.

Dating being flawed before the internet is certainly true too. In general, you must look for existential validation outside of women. This is not a way to "win", but only what you must do to prevent yourself from losing totally. Consuming media about women, thinking about women, microcriticizing every detail of your looks, presentation, lifestyle and behavior for dating - these behaviors are both symptoms of an existential poverty, and a black hole that furthers it through opportunity cost and spiritual sacrifice. But of course, the compulsion and obsession we are cursed with as male mammals is the hindrance to actualizing this awareness.

PS. It's good to hear from you again a little bit TS, a sign of life from you is what I most wanted from popping up here again. I hope you have found or will find at least some joy this summer.

"You must look for existential validation outside of women" – a similar thought has often come to me when dealing with the craziness of dating. 

The dating game is just so hard for me that even if I get a small win, it all goes away into the nothingness soon enough. Hence why I'd often ask myself why am I even playing and what could I ever possibly accomplish. 

I have been rejected so many times that I'd probably forgotten more interactions with women than people have had in their entire lives. 

One of the strongest reasons why people don't abandon the pursuit is that we can't see a higher purpose because women and family are directly connected. You can't have a family if all women reject you. You can't reproduce and live a more fulfilling life. 

Hence why so many men try so hard to make something out of nothing. We are not really after "tits". There's more to the story. A family gives a purpose that is missing in the modern consumer lifestyle. But women are the gatekeepers to that purpose and if you don't satisfy their criteria, you won't get a chance. 

I agree that you can't really win this game. It's damage control as you say. 

The main reason why the world is this way is that society has moved away from God. We want to make our own rules. To be our own gods, but in the end, we all end up being miserable clowns who live a pointless secular lifestyle in one way or another. You can hate religion, but the alternatives aren't all that great as shown by the modern atheistic world controlled by TV show doctrines. 

P.S. Thank you for your posts. They're really insightful. I will be posting again soon. Just stopped for a while to work on something else. My summer is not really all that different. 

In fact, I got rejected by another woman. We went on a date, she agreed on a second one but then she suddenly became "Really Busy."

But I am done writing dating stories. I don't ever want to write a book like A Desert in the Sky. It's too emotionally draining.
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(07-21-2020, 05:09 AM)TruthSeeker Wrote: The dating game is just so hard for me that even if I get a small win, it all goes away into the nothingness soon enough. Hence why I'd often ask myself why am I even playing and what could I ever possibly accomplish. 

I have been rejected so many times that I'd probably forgotten more interactions with women than people have had in their entire lives. 

The main reason why the world is this way is that society has moved away from God. We want to make our own rules. To be our own gods, but in the end, we all end up being miserable clowns who live a pointless secular lifestyle in one way or another. You can hate religion, but the alternatives aren't all that great as shown by the modern atheistic world controlled by TV show doctrines. 

In fact, I got rejected by another woman. We went on a date, she agreed on a second one but then she suddenly became "Really Busy."

The moral irony is that you have a level of courage in particular, and perseverance as well, which the women who reject you can hardly imagine let alone measure themselves with - and yet you are the one who must subject yourself to their judgement.

Did you cold approach her?

Personally, I came home today from spending the weekend at a girl's apartment (the same one I mentioned recently who is "done"). But I feel no lasting benefit from having done so, it feels utterly mundane. And even while we have sex or are somewhat affectionate like how a real couple would be, the positive feeling still feels shallow and dishonest underneath the mere surface, because I am not with her out of real attraction or let alone love.

I am with her because I don't have any functional way to meet new women who I'm actually attracted to. Both of us are disillusioned, but like with you and the actress it's because of entirely different reasons. And in fact like you, I just got rejected today as well. I am so sick of being worthless in the sexual marketplace and having to live like this..... I know it's just a rant, but I don't want to be powerless like this anymore.
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(07-27-2020, 06:20 PM)Loverboy Wrote: The moral irony is that you have a level of courage in particular, and perseverance as well, which the women who reject you can hardly imagine let alone measure themselves with - and yet you are the one who must subject yourself to their judgement.

Did you cold approach her?

Personally, I came home today from spending the weekend at a girl's apartment (the same one I mentioned recently who is "done"). But I feel no lasting benefit from having done so, it feels utterly mundane. And even while we have sex or are somewhat affectionate like how a real couple would be, the positive feeling still feels shallow and dishonest underneath the mere surface, because I am not with her out of real attraction or let alone love.

I am with her because I don't have any functional way to meet new women who I'm actually attracted to. Both of us are disillusioned, but like with you and the actress it's because of entirely different reasons. And in fact like you, I just got rejected today as well. I am so sick of being worthless in the sexual marketplace and having to live like this..... I know it's just a rant, but I don't want to be powerless like this anymore.

They don't care about my effort. They are too blind to see it, for they're entitled and obsessed with themselves. People behave with each other like disposable souls. If you're not the perfect product, they throw you away. With each year, men are becoming more and more disposable. 

This is the result of a morally corrupt, gynocentric system where males are subjected to a silent eugenics program filtering those with good genetics and a strong economic position. For that reason, average males have really poor leverage on the dating scene.

All those women want are elite genes and money. If you can't provide it, you are pushed away. If you can, you condone yourself to a union with a woman that loves you only for your flesh. All those unions result in offspring of lower consciousness destined to repeat the loop and reinforce the agenda.
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